It's time to quit your job!
What am I talking about? I'm talking about the very basics of narcissistic abuse: narcissistic supply. Narcissists need their fix and you are their supply. Remember that their addiction is your emotional support and validation. You are the main supply house for that addiction and you are the primary shareholder in giving that supply in order for them to exist.
Every conversation, every action and every breath feeds into their addiction. Every. single. solitary. Word. Every utterance out of their mouth is all about getting Narcissistic Supply. Every conversation will degenerate into manipulation centered around the Narcissists agenda to feed their addiction.
The Narcissistic Woman in your life is not an authentic person who comes from a genuine place of having your best interests at heart. EVER. They may seem like they care for a hot minute --- but they don't. Once those aspects of the narcissist are in the pathological range consistently... you are a pawn in their own personal chess game to feed their addiction to manage their self worth.
Narcissistic Supply is the sustenance they need. It is the food of life for them.
If you are still in a narcissistic relationship, they are the bitchy boss of the supply chain and you are their peon to work for them to give them your all. Here's the worst part of it... this bitchy boss will use intimidation, aggression, belittle you and a variety of other humiliating tactics to feed their addiction.
They thrive on Submission and succession. They thrive on you groveling for forgiveness. They thrive on you taking the backseat in this two person organization and they thrive on WINNING.
Gonna say it again: Every conversation, every action and every breath feeds into their addiction. Every. single. solitary. Word. Every utterance out of your mouth is all about getting Narcissistic Supply. Every conversation will degenerate into manipulation centered around the Narcissists agenda to feed their addiction.
If you wanna quit this job of supply house manager, there are a few things you need to do to help yourself out! It's time for you to Promote Yourself instead of your Bitch Boss and take credit where credit is due.
I wish I could push a magic button and have you internalize that without supply a narcissist can't exist. Also remember that just because you aren't giving supply doesn't mean that they won't STILL be a narcissist.
Here's Your First To Do List
Here's Your First To Do List
- Internalize that every conversation from the first word out of your mouth is feeding their addiction.
- Understand that your narcissistic boss lady at home can also seduce you with charm, sex and the false front of having your best interest at heart to feed her addiction. If you have sex with her, she is using it as a weapon. If she is charming and appears to be nice and goes something nice for you.. it's because she wants something. If she is helping you do something around the house, she is doing so people outside of your marriage can see that she is "the good wife."
- The agenda under everything she does is all about feeding her addiction.
- Every breathing human on the planet is used to feed her supply. From strangers to the most loved ones.
- Don't feed her. She is morbidly obese in the world of psychological torture.
I understand you may be living in this hell of your very own torture chamber. If you are wondering how to not feed this narcissist (until you figure out leaving) then you are going to have to cut off her supply.
Yes, you basically have to be invisible in your own home. Cutting off the supply is tricky and also can be interesting especially if you have no place to go. You are, however, giving yourself a promotion in your own world. YOU are going to be in control of your own emotional state and love yourself enough NOT to cave into the pressure of Feeding her addiction.
Now if you are already out of the house and away from your Narcissist..... I commend you for getting outta there and keep going. Support your local Union of Men here and lend them support. They need you to be able to understand how to quit and stay gone!
The same goes for those who have left or need to leave. GO NO CONTACT!
The same goes for those who have left or need to leave. GO NO CONTACT!
Are you wondering how you can go no contact in your own home? Well guys, if your narcissist has ever given you the silent treatment, then it's time to fight back with the same tactic, only modified so you don't look like an asshole.
But the basics of Narcissistic Supply are laid out here to understand what it is. It truly is time to quit your job and promote yourself out of there.
The HOW TO CUT off supply is in the next post.... it will keep you safe, moving forward and moving on. She can have access to you but she doesn't have to have SUCCESS with you anymore.
The HOW TO CUT off supply is in the next post.... it will keep you safe, moving forward and moving on. She can have access to you but she doesn't have to have SUCCESS with you anymore.